High Self Esteem = Competence AND Worth
What is high self-esteem? Some say it’s the feeling of personal competence. Some say the feeling of personal worth. Or is it both? I say both.
Ask yourself the following questions to determine the areas where you may need to examine find your level of high self-esteem:
Do I know how to give and receive love? Or do I get stepped on and used in my relationships.
Do I have wonderful friends? Or are my friends undermining and backbiting?
Do I take good care of myself physically? Or do I eat poorly, sleep little or too much and do no exercise?
Do I earn an income that is appropriate my age? Or do I go from one low-paying job to another?
Even if you answer positively for four out of the five of your answers, one area of your life that isn’t working the way you’d like it to is enough to throw your life out of balance and negatively effect you high self esteem. Be honest with yourself. Do something for yourself. Think about hiring a life coach and focus in particular on the area you need a boost on.
When you have high self esteem you can accomplish what you want to in your life. When you have high self esteem you can stick to what you want to accomplish – even if it takes years. As one who suffered from low self esteem, I know how long and hard it can be but I also know the rewards of high self esteem.
As an example, in three major areas of my life, I’ll give you a little synopsis:
Relationships – from a really long and bad first marriage with two partners with clear self esteem issues, I now have a long-term marriage with two of us feeling good about ourselves.
Career – from floundering around doing jobs I was either over or under-qualified for, I now know my talents and how to use them.
Self-care – from years of overweight and health problems I now am actually tired of my clothes because they keep fitting me.
Obviously that is not every area of my life but I think it is quite easy to see that having high self esteem makes all the difference in the world in life. If I can do it, so can you.