Inner Child Healing
Perfectionism started for me as a child. My mother wanted me to be perfect and I bought into it totally. I don’t feel like a victim here because the way I imagine it, that the choice was made during some period when I was out of a body and just an energy – a soul – and decided that a good part of my path in this life would be to always try to be perfect. I often fall very short. Many years ago I started working on my inner child healing and realized at age 66 that perfection is a mental box. It keeps creativity from entering.
Let’s look at an example. Let’s say I want perfect grooming. I try to figure out how to have my hair look perfect. I try to figure out how my nails should look to be considered perfect. I spend lots of effort figuring out how to dress, moisturize, deodorize and criticize myself into perfection. Does it work? Can I ever truly be perfect? Of course not! The more I try to be perfect the more I cut myself off from my inner child healing and know my true self. It is not worth severing that connection with myself to fit into someone’s fashion box.
Let’s look at another example. Let’s say I want the perfect career but I don’t know who I am or what my gifts really are. I must start with my inner child healing, spending time on my own knowing. Otherwise I will have cut myself off from that inner knowing by spending so much time in my thinking-ego-mind that I’m even confused about what others think is the perfect career.
You are the only expert on you what you need. How do you take those “cut off” parts of yourself back? You keep learning, being open to hearing from truly loving support and you keep knowing that you are intrinsically, infinitely creative by virtue of being a part of the magnificent Whole. You are perfectly you.