Self Acceptance by a Coach
In a world full opposites we seem to have trouble finding our own self acceptance. I was in the last couple of minutes with a coaching call and my client said she realized why she spent her life comparing herself to others. Her mother had compared her to others when she was a child and she learned it.
- First we have the human perspective – the perspective we hold here on planet earth. Here on planet earth it seems as if comparing is perfectly normal. We are always looking at good and bad , smaller and bigger , better and worse . We see things in duality. If there is one, the opposite is also true. So when my mother used to say, “Why aren’t you like Renee (a goodie-two-shoes who was the older-than-I daughter of my mother’s childhood friend)? It made me feel – bad! So if I was bad then somebody has to be good. And so we spend our lives comparing ourselves to others. But self acceptance can also be learned thus we have to apply it to our daily routine.
- Then we have the broad, spiritual perspective (and I might add, the real one). In that perspective there is only ONENESS. Whether you see it as a spiritual Intelligence, God or whatever, it’s very nature is oneness. And since that implies that ALL is part of that, there is no duality, no good and bad, no smaller and bigger, no comparison. All is included in the ONE. We are all encompassing. All of us are apart of one whole.
So, from the spiritual perspective there is nothing to compare because we are all part of the same thing. It is only an illusion. When you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else checking to see if they are richer, thinner or prettier or if you are, then you can realize that perspective is learned. Now you are in control of your own self acceptance. Every time you catch yourself, you are closer and closer to full self acceptance.